Will it be hard to get another job if I'm fired?
Asked by 2 young 2 understand
My anger problems had completely ruined my entire life. I'd go through long phases where I explode over the smallest thing. It got me suspended during high school, restricted to online courses in college, lost me some friends, and recently got me fired. A coworker at Wal-Mart said on Jan 4th that she came to a cartful of apparels returns. She thought it was from me, and when I tried to explain it was from the overnight crew, she didn't believe me, so I exploded, verbally abused her, said all kinds of horrible things even though she said it's no bid deal. She went to mgmt about me "harrassing" her. Four days later, I was still unable to get past it, so I punched the pole in the fitting room in front of customers, one of whom reported me. Mgmt said it was workplace violence, accused me of endangering ppl, and fired me. They said ceiling tiles coulda fallen and hit someone and cause serious damage. However, they said I'm eligible for rehire and may apply after 90 days. What are my chances if I do reapply? If I choose to get a job at another company, will I even be considered? I get alot of work done on the sales floor, sometimes more than other depts, where I helped out occasionally. Also, I didn't ask to have an anger problem. I was born that way.

Best Answer:
You have to stop making excuses for your problems. Throwing your hands up and saying "I was born this way" is complete BS and very immature. You DID harass your coworker, and you DID endanger your other coworkers. Quite frankly, you sound scary. You need to get counseling as soon as possible. I wouldn't bother looking for more work til you resolve these issues. They're only going to cause more problems for you at your new job.

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Answered by alex

Slim to none. Move on. Tighten up, squeeze every penny. Use much of your time being thrifty and cutback, save and think about how to improve your thrift techniques. Stay out of stores and buy only what is really necessary. Work on "anger management" and do an extensive web search about "road rage." Work on it. You and others like you are terribly frustrated. That frustration just smolders the more you think about the many causes of your frustration. Any animal is the the same. It generalizes and the frustration keeps them ever ready to explode in rage for some minor issue.
Answered by Bailout City

Other companies may hire you, it's worth trying at least so you don't have to sit around waiting for 3 months. I would bet that if you enrolled in anger management classes it would increase your odds of getting hired somewhere else greatly. People who are clearly seeking help to prevent what happened to get them fired from happening again are more likely to get hired.
Answered by Ash

It's not the fact that you were fired that is going to make it hard for you. All kinds of people have been fired/laid off lately. What you have to deal with is the fact that you have an anger issue. Yes, it will be hard if you can't change your personality. I had the same thing, and I had a counselor to help me. I'm a charm now :) You CAN change your attitude! Just give it a chance. Get someone to help you out personally that isn't going to be weak and give up on you! You're probably going to want a fresh start at a different job....
Answered by Johnny Lo

Finding another job won't be your biggest problem. The real issue is your inability to control your emotions in the work place. I'd recommend attending a support group for those with anger management problems. I really believe in the group method of therapy and think this will help address this issue. You seem to be still young so don't get so down on yourself. You can get past this. In the grand scheme of things, losing a job is not the end of the world. Love yourself enough to start working on this character issue before it causes you even more pain!! God Speed! Brad
Answered by Brad W

You were born that way? Nonsense. If you don't be realistic about it then you will not get past it and your future, employment and relationship will be pretty bleak. Many people can lose their temper, most as they mature, learn to control it, not let it control them which is what is happening with you now. As for regaining your job, I wouldn't count on it. They might have told what the company policy is about firing, but if they have no reason to consider you to have changed - why would they consider re-hiring you?
Answered by midnite.scribe

Violent people are typically not desirable employees. WM may or may not hire you back, but I'm not sure they can reveal why you were fired to other companies you apply with. Those companies would likely want to know why you are no longer with WM however. Instead of using "I was born that way" to excuse your behavior, get counseling. That's along the line of obese people blaming their size on genetics and not what they put in their mouth. It may in part be some of the issue, but bottom line is that a lot of it is choice. You may find it difficult to control your anger, but I seriously doubt it's impossible and with professional help you may be able to get it completely in hand. I suggest you take action to remedy the situation before it negatively affects more aspects of your life than you've already listed. Good luck!
Answered by BabeHeart

It might help the rehire (or getting another job) if you can say you had an anger managment class, or "I learned that . . . (something constructive and positive)" Also, certain drugs, (nicotine, for example) have a side effect of increasing anger. Even if you were born that way, you might try to avoid things that make it worse.
Answered by Jerry Lee