Should I stay at my job if I'm offered a higher position at the last minute?
Asked by mc777
i pretty much gave my 2 weeks today at a restaurant (i was getting bored being stuck in the same position), & the boss suddenly tried to talk me out of it, promising me a managerial position if i stayed. the thing is, i've been working for him for over 3 years, and he's never offered me anything like that before. in the past, i've seen at least four less-experienced people get promoted above me. and now all of a sudden he starts telling me how good i am & that he needs me to stay. i've been wanting this position for a while, but now it doesn't feel good knowing the only reason i was offered it was as part of a bribe to keep me from leaving altogether. i don't think i'd be as proud or comfortable if i became a manager that way. whaddya guys think? (p.s. i do have another job lined up, it's less pay but alot less travel time too) if i do decide to reject his offer, what should i say? i mean, i like my boss a lot, he's great fun, but i'm having trouble believing what he's saying.

Best Answer:
take the new job..

depends on what u wanna do if the treat you right or not
Answered by RINA R

i would stay, take the promotion and then keep looking for something even better. it is called leverage and baby you have it.
Answered by Mary D

take it if you dont youl regret it in the future
Answered by SK8er

Since he's offering you this position, he obviously likes you as an employee and wants you to stick around. If it's something that you've been wanting and the pay is what you expect, then I think you should try it out. If it doesn't work out, then move on to the next place.
Answered by animal_mother

I would not stay if it has been three years and other, less qualified people have been promoted over you. Your boss is not concerned about promoting you, but is more concerned about replacing an employee who works hard (which is very difficult to do these days!). By promoting you, he is covering his tail rather than giving you a better job. In my experience, promotions such as these tend to be more work, more responsibility (meaning you'll get b*tched out more), with consideribly less money. Don't compromise yourself. Do what is right for you; not what is convenient for your boss.
Answered by marianne

Reject it.. if he gave the job to others before you(I'm assuming that you applied before and were passed over), then you can be sure he is lying when he's telling you how good he thinks you are. He's going to "hire you in that position once he gets your job filled" and string you along just long enough to have this other job offer expire.
Answered by Robert W

This does happen alot of time, employers take take and take then they realize you are gone and only then they try to do something. This will depend on how you will feel staying there knowing it took you to leave for them to notice. And the other job is a lot less travel that is a big plus for me. Good luck to you.
Answered by Ann Lynn

If you already have another job lined up... quit your current job. If you have to threaten to quit before you boss realizes your a vaulable part of his/her team.... just think what your going to have to do in the future to get anything done. As far as what to say. I would thank him/her for the chance to stay, but you have another opportunity that you want to try out. Ask if you will still be able to come back if you decide the other job isnt for you.
Answered by yepyep123

tell him you want to work for a company that promotes from within, a company that will reward you for hard work and loyalty with promotions. If you have to quit every time you want a promotion its not a good company to work for. Move on. He will only hold you back. Make sure you make it very clear to him that you do not appreciate what he has done. Ive had that same thing happen to me and it offends me.
Answered by casey

I think you should probably move on, but do so in a way that doesn't slam that door behind you. Tell your boss that you appreciate the opportunity and his showing faith in you, but that you didn't give notice just to jerk him around and make him promote you. Tell him that you like him and respect him, but you gave your word to this new job after much thought since you figured you'd gone as far as you could in your present one. Then go ahead and leave. If you have left with good feelings at the old place, then perhaps you can come back if the new job doesn't work out. You could even suggest that to your boss. Good luck to you. I hate that we have to push so hard to get what we deserve sometimes.
Answered by desperatehw

If your Happy where you are stay if you can do better go but make sure first not to be left out in the cold always have something lined up before you leave a job
Answered by raypay2003

what i would do.... stay and take the position.... then look for another managerial position... it will be easier to get hired as a manager if you already are one.... and competitors love to steal away the managerial staff.... so it will be an easy transition.... and you don't have to stay and put up with a boss that doesn't appreciate you.... good luck!
Answered by chrysteena

My friend, it all depends on what you want. If I was in a similar situation, I would choose the job that would give me the most satisfaction irrespective of the pay packet because in the long run I will realise my potential to the fullest. In regards to keeping your boss happy if you decide to leave your current employment, I think if he is a good friend as you seem to imply, then he will let you go and grow and not suppress you from realising your full potential.
Answered by cloudskin2003

You have another job lined up, ok, but does it worth than being a mgr if you stay? He's trying to recognize what you deserved and what is due to you for working for him for the past few yrs! Your boss show he's making it up just for you to stay. It may be late but it's better than never!
Answered by dalton

I think your boss values you and your work, but has taken you for granted until he he was jarred into reality. Also, you might not have been offered a promotion because you were doing a super job at your level, which saved him a lot of time and worry. Take him up on it. At least you know this job and how to do it well. And it's not bribing. It is negotiating. Bosses & employees do it all the time. It's how it's done now. To allevate your own insecurities, Say to him, " Chief, you have said you would promote me to a manager position if I stay. When do you think that will happen?" See, you will be negotiating as well. You have to have a tough skin to get ahead. Start now. If you accept, Be the best manager you can be. Knock their socks off! This should convince you or anyone else that you weren't "given" the job. You are there because you earned it. Two old adages to remember: "A bird in the hand is worth two in the bush." "The grass aways looks greener on the other side of the fence." Good luck.
Answered by gulfbreeze8

If you take a new job, for less money, you are going backwards. Take the promotion, but make sure they give it to you immediately. Don't let them talk around it. No excuses. Stay in that place and learn what you can, but keep looking for a new job. An old mentor that I had once said "Once you have the title, they can't take it away from your resume." It will mean more money in the long run, and less time "working your way up" so to speak.
Answered by Cheffy D

I can tell you from past experience, quit your job. I applied for a job and gave my notice. They offered me a $5,000 raise if I stayed which I did. They laid me off 2 weeks later.
Answered by stan c

Here is something that my father told me a long time ago. Look at what reasons you have been looking for another job. Is it pay, or your hours, or the job. If you have found something else that will be better for you in the long run (even if it is less pay) you need to do what makes you happy. Keeping your position with a promise is only that. Even if you do end up with a promotion, will you be happy? I say move on. You never know what opportunities are out there unless you take them.
Answered by smash62

No, you shouldn't stay...especially if u don't like ur job. When I quit my job, I got a promotion offer, but I still quit anyway, which was the best thing I ever did. I absolutely love my new job, and they're paying me even more for a lower position. Just remember, if u don't like ur job, ur not going to like being a manager there.
Answered by ashley_p89

you should follow your heart on this one if you ain't happy in your job you have now this promotion won't make a difference if you feel the promotion is a bribe you will never be happy if that is the way you feel do what your heart says is the right thing for you
Answered by etta lenn

I would take it. If you like the place.
Answered by Steve is cool

You should have talked to him about your situation before telling him that you are leaving. This is a tough situation in my opinion. There is a canadian website (jobboom.com or .ca) there is a place there that you can ask your question there and they will answer you.
Answered by someguy

You say you like your boss a lot and that he is great fun. Don't get work and pleasure confused. If he really wanted you to have the promotion he would have offered it to you before now. Take the new job. Step back and take a deep breath, relax, and start over with a new attitude. I would move onward and upward with a fresh start.
Answered by swcasper2001

I would make him give you a definite time for the promotion. It may be that he's just telling you that to keep you from quitting. By making him pinpoint a time, you will know whether he is sincere or not. Sometimes, bosses seem to look over the hardest workers for promotions because they don't have to worry about them leaving. The four less experienced workers may have been badgering him. He sounds like he needs better managerial skills. He isn't supposed to let his employees bully him. He should promote by seniority and skills, not whining and threatening.
Answered by ptruelove01